Dating After Divorce For Women Over 40 #1

Views 1 Like Comments Comment
Like if this Guide is helpful

Let’s face it, it’s probably been years since you’ve been on the dating scene. And the thought of putting yourself out there again is pretty scary isn’t it.

If you're like me you’re probably thinking,
• “I’m no spring chicken.
• I’ve got kids.
• My bodies sure not what it used to be.
• Can I really put myself through this?
• Should I do this?
• The dating scene’s changed.
• And how would I even start?"

I can hear you saying to yourself, “Finding love’s really hard work and it doesn’t get any easier with age.”

The good news is you don’t have to be afraid or unsure and you’re not alone. Most of us who haven’t dated in a long while share the same thoughts and fears.

It’s normal. It’s not your fault. You know how when you buy a big screen TV or a new car you get a manual? So why is it that when we go out into the big wide world, you’re expected to no exactly what to do without anyone actually telling you?
By the time you’ve finished reading my report, you’ll have a step by step manual on how to date confidently, easily and successfully. Now that’s going to be a great feeling isn’t it!

- Imagine how liberating it will feel to re-enter the dating scene with confidence  
- Imagine knowing how to sort out the time wasters from the top contenders right from the start.
- Imagine knowing the right questions to ask a man, to find out their true intentions without them even knowing you’re doing it!
Does that sound like something you would be interested in?
Then here’s some especially good news for you. I’ll be sharing the secrets to successfull, effortless dating that I learnt over the last 17 years as a single, divorced mother.  Secrets that once I implemented allowed me to finding the man of my dreams with ease.

Do you find yourself thinking:
• I’m sick and tired of being lonely
• I’m so frustrated of dating duds or loser
• I don’t know what or how to find my dream man

You’ve had enough of wasting time, energy and missing out on the fun and all the great things you could be enjoying with your dream man.

• You look forward to the time when you can enjoy the simple pleasures of life shared in love with that special someone:
• Walking along the beach
• Playing golf, tennis, card games etc
• Going on holidays
• Enjoying the fulfillment, contentment, excitement  and richness of love.
• When you him say “ I love you”
• Such enjoying each others company

I’m really excited about this because I know it will change your life forever, as it did mine. I know for a fact that if it can happen for me it can for you too. After all, I’m hardly perfect or super model material.

“I laugh, I love, I hope, I try, I hurt, I need, I fear, I cry. And I know you do the same things too. So we’re not that different, me and you” sang Colin Raye

Believe me I’ve had my share of failures and horror stories. I’m sure you and your girlfriends have shared your own dating war stories. I just wish the secrets I’m going to share with you had been revealed to me 24 years ago after my first divorce. It would have saved me a lot of heartbreak that’s for sure.

This is my story.

In my past life and with my old programming, beliefs and fears I would have stayed with Tim, my second husband, at my emotional and mental cost for many more years. But after seeking help, I realised this was not the right thing to do.
My journey with my first two failed marriages gave me the opportunity to study my failures. It was an excruciating time of heartbreak and grief. I know many of you can relate to that. But even through my pain, I made a promise to myself. A promise that I would find the man of my dreams without going through any more heartbreak or embarrassment. I would never again allow the pain of another divorce or dating fiasco to impact my life.
So after my second divorce, I had a good look at myself. I decided that the first thing I needed to do was get some help. It was my goal to improve myself as a person. And I knew that this would reflect in my life and other people around me in a positive, inspiring way. So I studied to become a counselor. I learned a lot about human nature. Discovered a lot about myself too and was given the tools to help myself and others. I also learned some very useful and life-changing dating tips.

Here's just a sample of what I learned.

7 Secrets to Quickly and Effortlessly Find and Date Your Dream Man
Dating Secret tip #1 Only date divorced men, single or widowed men.

Don't date men that are separated but not divorced yet. You may be thinking, "But he’s been separated 5 years, surely that's OK?" No, it’s not. It’s a deal breaker. The only exception is if you know for sure that the divorce will soon be finalized. And by shortly I mean three months. Not twelve months from the day you met.

You’re saying, "but Birgit, he’s a nice guy". I’m sure he is, but he’s unavailable to you today. This will not lead to an effortless and happy dating journey. Trust me, this will only lead to pain and heartbreak.

When you ask the guy who has been separated 2-10 years why he hasn’t got a divorce yet he’ll usually answer casually along the lines of “never got around to it” or “never thought about it”, or “didn’t seem important”.

They all mean the same thing. He is NOT ready for a long term relationship. Oh, he’ll tell you he is. And he may even believe it himself. But on some subconscious level he’s not available to you. There is this passive implication that maybe you’re the one and he’ll organize the divorce for you. So based on your performance, he’ll see. I don’t think so!

Don’t hold your breathe. He will not and cannot guarantee this implied, passive offer. If a man is serious about finding a committed relationship he would have severed all legal ties with his previous partner… whether it was a marriage or long term live-in relationship. It’s even possible he’s hoping for a reconciliation! You won’t hear that from him though. You don’t need to be his diversion in the meantime.

If you feel he’s such a great guy, make him an offer. Tell him, “When you have your divorce, give me a call and if I’m still available, we can go out for coffee.” But walk away immediately with your eyes peeled for your next possible dream man.

After all, the soon-to-be-divorced man will have his energy and focus on the divorce and settlement procedure, not on you as a priority. This will make it difficult to set up a fun and effortless dating relationship.

The average time for a divorce after separation is around 2 years. This is a really important time for men and women to grieve the loss of dreams and a future with their ex. It’s a time to be alone and lick your wounds. Process the emotions to enable you to move on in your life.

If you meet a man during this period in his life, you'll be dating the “walking wounded”. These men evolve with the healing and support you offer, then move on and most likely marry the next woman that they get involved with. There’s a very low probability he’ll stay with you. Thanks to you, he’s now that very attractive guy that has it all together and needs a new woman to see him as Mr Wonderful.

In my dating mentoring system I am offering only the highest probability of success of finding and dating your dream man effortlessly. So a divorced man is your very best bet.

He’ll easily date you and demonstrate that you are his priority in love and life.

For example, I have a male family friend whose been separated 8 years. And I know he’s still in love with his wife. He’s had two girlfriends in that time. Each relationship lasted about 12 months. The women called it quits after realizing there was no future if he still hadn’t divorced after all that time.

Bullet proof yourself from any possible pain, hurt and disappointment by dating only divorced, single or widowed men.

If you’re looking to find your dream man and start living your dream life click here for all the information and start now.

Have something to share, create your own Guide... Write a Guide
Explore more Guides