Given the choice between the experience of pain and thing, I would choose pain. -William Faulkner To my surprise my pain did t kill me. On the contrary, my traumatic experiences made me a stronger and wiser woman. My Pain Was Not in Vain tells my story of trauma and abuse from childhood through most of my adult life. Every person has a story even if that story is never told. Blessed is the individual who survives trauma and learns to live again. Learning to live again is good. It is better to learn to thrive after trauma. My Pain Was Not in Vain is a road map for people who have been abused misused and want to learn t only to live again but to thrive after trauma. Living is simply existing, functioning day after day. Thriving is healing from trauma then reaching out to help others heal from similar experiences. Only by helping others to heal do we realize our pain has purpose. My Pain Was Not in Vain offers self-help to individuals who want to find purpose after trauma.
Doris J. Thomas is a mother, founder of a non-profit organization, scholar, social activist, and a survivor of domestic dysfunction and damage. Doris is mother of four surviving children (Sherelle, Aiesha, Jeremiah, and Teayanna); mother of Tony who was fatally shot on February 24, 2006; and grandmother of one grandson, Jahmere. Doris founded Mothers of Crime Victims, a non-profit organization committed to empowering mothers who lost children to violent crime by providing personal development programs and services that support healing and enhance her ability to contribute to a decrease in violent crime in the community. Doris earned a BA in Business Management from Augsburg College in Minneapolis, Minnesota in 1991; a Master in Science of Psychology from University of Phoenix Online in 2010 and currently enrolled in Doctorate of Business Administration program at University of Phoenix Online. Doris' doctoral studies are connected to Mothers of Crime Victims to more effectively serve hurting people. Doris is a member of the Delaware Coalition Against Domes-tic Violence Women of Color Task Force representing her home church Ezion Fair Baptist Church, Wilmington, Dela-ware, Pastor C. T. Curry P.HD, D.Min. to educate the faith community on domestic violence awareness. Doris also oversees the Domestic Health Ministry at Ezion Fair. The mission of the Domestic Health Ministry is to mobilize the faith community to prevent domestic violence. We educate, advocate, and pave the way for social change and healthy families. Doris serves on the Trauma Informed Care Committee (TICC) with Warden Wendi Caple at Baylor Women's Correc-tional Facility and Department of Corrections. The TICC recognizes unresolved trauma is a root cause of deviant behavior. Doris believes resolving offenders' trauma will encourage emotional healing and increase success rates of individuals returning to society. Doris also serves on a leadership team facilitated by the Delaware Department of Justice and the Delaware Victims Rights Task Force to connect all survivors who lost loved ones through homicide to resources that promote healing, opportunity to remember and to honor loved ones, and to promote unity in the city of Wilmington Delaware.