Writing about transforming a crisis of indecision into a journey of self-discovery, the author in this book seeks to reminds women that motherhood is an option, not a given (much less an instinct). The author aims to show how the choice each individual makes is a product of her fears (of change and loss of control), unexamined assumptions about normality, and the not-always-audible voices of her own mother and family history. Dr. Tobin challenges mental health professionals to recognise that coming to terms with the question Do I want to be a mother? is a rite of passage proper to every women, an act of maturation, an opportunity for self-creation. For women who find themselves infertile or uncoupled or unconventionally situated in terms of age or sexual preference, the question may be compounded - How much do I want to be a mother? - and revisited more than once as reproductive technology fails, adoption is considered and time passes.